Get a really fresh perspective!
You may sense that the embodied presence of meeting in person, in a fresh space that's distinct from your everyday life would suit you best. This could be through the containment and calm of meeting in a welcoming, private room (clean and tidy of course!), or the grounded, energising, and more spacious experience of walk and talk sessions in nature. You may simply prefer to meet people in the flesh and in private for personal conversations – a clearly important consideration.
Face to face sessions (To resume Autumn 2020)
My consultation rooms are warm and welcoming spaces designed to aid clearer thinking – and very easy to access from public transport (once we're safe to get on it again).
Walk & talk eco therapy sessions in person (To resume Autumn 2020)
Some people prefer working with me outdoors, in keeping with the practical nature of CBT. If you find air and walking aids better thinking, concentration and energy, you're welcome to opt for walk and talk sessions in any of your appointments over the phone, online or when we meet in person. There are routes that take in quiet side streets and mini green spaces to and from all my rooms, and in the summer, Regents Park is a great place for uplifting sessions!
I also offer deeper, immersive experiences in nature in the Cotswolds and Hertfordshire, that can be tailored to support your journey and fit your preferences - from two hours to a full day. This is particularly useful if you need to step back and see a bigger picture, gain fresh vision and get some restoration and grounded-ness from nature at the same time.
Alternatively check phone and online sessions (current availability Mon - Fri)
Choosing the right approach for you:
Not sure if meeting in person’s going to always work with your commitments or Covid regulations?
Rest assured, I’ll ensure that your sessions are a consistently connecting, helpful and effective experience for you, whether you meet with me in person, online or on the phone.
You’re very welcome to experiment and experience working with me in all these different ways, moving flexibly between them, which can be particularly useful, as they all have different advantages, and as your needs and priorities will of course be changing during your journey with me. Communicating in different modes and locations can of course bring out different aspects of attention, authenticity and awareness too. Great to try them all, where poss!
Whether you choose to sit in the same room, walk with me outdoors, or work with me remotely, factors that have a bearing on your emotional and physical safety are always kept in my active awareness, and part of our teamwork alliance is about making collaborative decisions together that are responsive to life’s continuous flux in a wise and healthy way.
Advantages of meeting in person—two very important considerations
It's getting rather trendy for therapists to talk about 'embodied presence'! For me, this is about being fully attentive with you, interested and engaged in our here and now experience of relating with one another as two living human beings with - and beyond – the narratives of our history and identity.
Another way of putting it is being able to tune in with each other at a deeper level, sometimes with words and sometimes in the rare and special stillness of “simply being here as an open presence – no words needed in this moment” ...and temporarily suspending our agendas about “growth and change” etc.
This can be a very significant and healing aspect of a therapeutic relationship – particularly if your interactions with people in your personal or professional life often leave you feeling not really seen, heard, understood or truly “met” at a deeper level. I find its totally possible to experience this way of deeper relating online or on the phone, but it can often be a fuller experience when we are actually in the same place as each other.
A calm and neutral thinking space
Not everyone wants to come to therapy and coaching and experience or practice deeper connection and presence —a warm and friendly connection, with a healthy mix of understanding, compassion and humour might feel plenty rich enough on the “deep relating” side of things and that’s absolutely ok with me!
What you might prefer to prioritise is developing a greater ability to step back—not to wall off and disconnect, but to practice bringing more calm and neutrality into your consideration of trigger scenarios or thorny matters.
I work with many clients who want to explore what it means to become a calmer “observer” to their interactions or to practice more nuanced or clearer boundary setting and assertiveness. Having a totally separate, neutral space to reflect and practice in can be a very important step before doing it in everyday life. And of utmost importance is having a space where you can discuss private matters in total confidentiality.
The sessions where we met outdoors with Eleanor’s therapeutic angle helped me feel much more equipped and confident to deal with unexpected scenarios. Her calm and friendly coaching and practical strategies have taught my brain to realise it doesn’t need to be hyper alert all the time... because I’ve now got tools and confidence to handle things as they arise. That means less worry and less avoidance... and much more ability to just be present. I even get much more of a kick out of spontaneous experiences – and I used to be a control freak! ”
Advantages of walk and talk sessions
“Mindfulness” and “meditation” are big buzzwords, but a lot of people are put off by the idea of sitting in silence. It doesn’t have to be that way! I have 15 years of mindfulness practice and can teach you how to apply very quick strategies to get present, grounded and centred anytime, anyplace, anywhere.
One particularly useful – and surprisingly enjoyable – way to learn how to be more present is by heading out "round the block". This gives us plenty of opportunities to practice relating to the world around us with more spontaneous awareness. By learning to be more attentive of our ordinary realities, rather than dismissing them as insignificant or dull, we can move through life with more playfulness, curiosity and appreciation.
Connecting with nature
Whatever issues are on your mind, you’ve probably found that when you’re in nature, you get a calmer perspective. I’m trained as an Eco-therapist, which means I can help you connect more deeply with nature, even in the city. Nature has a lot of wisdom to help us make sense of the different “seasons” of our lives, especially when we pause to really look.
I work with many people who long to slow down, stop judging themselves and be more accepting of life as it is. In our speeded up, digitally focused culture, its easy to get sucked in to a very distorted view of how we “should” look, how we “should” act, and how much we “should” be getting done. What could be a wiser teacher about breaking free from this fiction than nature that never rushes, never judges and simply is what it is?