Eleanor Bigden
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Coaching in London
Client story 6
Creating loving relationships and quality of life... by accepting others and letting go the need to control them!
My feedback and advice for anyone thinking about starting CBT
"In my CBT with Eleanor, the most valuable things I’ve learnt are: not trying to control everyone around me(!) ... and to be more relaxed about things - not to worry and get so het up! I used to get het up almost for the sake of it but I now feel pretty chilled out about the same things! I I’ve learnt to appreciate my mother much more, and that my son can be his own person.
As a result of my work with Eleanor, my relationships with my son and his wife have improved as I’m much calmer and relaxed about their baby. I now totally accept my son for who he is and that he is his own person and has his own thought processes. I now feel happy about the way I brought him up and feel strong love and care about him, but not a need to control him. Also with my granddaughter, I feel a natural love and not a need to interfere.
The rewards I have got from that are unbelievable – we all get on so well. I now feel people can see the real me.
If I hadn’t done CBT I’d still be really controlling and obsessive. I think I’m not so argumentative with my mother as well – we’ve always been close but I feel like we have much more in common and I don’t feel competitive with her. I now understand her love for me so much more, now that I have gone deeper into my love for my son and daughter in law and granddaughter. It’s so nice that we all get on – I’m so happy!
A year ago I wouldn’t have imagined that we would all be like this. My son used to say “you’re always so controlling”, but now my son’s said that my daughter in law loves to come round! I have developed a much softer more gentle side.. I have almost like a friendship relationship with my daughter in law and I feel like I have a daughter as well as a son. The fact that we all get on has brought great joy to my mum.
My next steps are likely to be keeping up with CBT – I’ve noticed that it’s really, really helpful to have a regular space with Eleanor every two weeks for addressing my concerns amid the busy-ness of life. Everybody’s noticing the changes in me and that I’m much happier and giving me the encouragement and support to keep up the good work! My quality of life has really improved."
Free telephone consultation
I offer a free initial telephone consultation to answer any questions you might have.
Easy to access locations
All my clinic locations are a few minutes walk from tube & bus stops, with quick overground links. I can also come to your home, workplace, or other location that suits you best.
Flexible arrangements to suit your schedule
If an appointment is difficult to make, I can offer therapy, coaching and mentoring sessions by telephone.
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